New question, sexual in nature.

[fabiodriven]

So I have had one thing looming in the back of my mind and I was just discussing it with a friend who has a friend that married a Russian woman. I seem to have met a lot of people who know somebody who has done this but I have yet to meet anybody in person who has married a Russian woman. I don't like going by "friend of a friend" stories, and I am a bit nervous about asking this question here, but what the hell. You guys are the experts.

I happen to be a very sexual person in nature. Please do not mistake this for a "man whore" or anything like that. I am very much a monogamous person. It's just that sex is very important to me in a relationship and I would hate to meet a woman who is seemingly "the one" only to find out that she isn't for me in bed. It worries me because I have had only one truly enjoyable sexual experience since being single. I really don't like that percentage.

Here's a "friend of a friend" story I just heard. Please bear in mind I take little heed in friend of friend stories or anything of that nature from people who have nothing to do with this subject other than having a friend who has married a Russian woman.

Supposedly the guy in the story currently has a Russian wife. He went to Russia about three years ago for about three weeks and apparently got to "point out" women that he liked and "try them out", if you will. He found one he liked, brought her home, and the rest is history. Now obviously this story sounds a bit out there to me. But realistically, I would like to find out if my new wife and I are going to be compatible. I have been with women who seemed like they would be right up my alley when talking to them before hand. When the time actually comes, it's almost always a disappointment to me.

Any and all suggestions are welcome.

Ding!

[Jack]

   He went to Russia about three years ago for about three weeks and apparently got to "point out" women that he liked and "try them out", if you will.

Any and all suggestions are welcome. 

Well, duhhhhhh.  fabio, this is not only in Russia, all countries have whore houses. You can do this in any country.  No need for you to travel half way around the world for this.  Save yourself 5K. Go to countries in this hemisphere.

[kievstar]

So your friend married a whore.  Have to like the rent before buy option.

Seriously if your more than 16 years old your a durak. 

[sunandsail]

Come on, sympathize with Fabio.   Why should he have to go through that "dating" and "getting to know you" thing.   It takes weeks, months, sometimes years.   

He just wants a test drive, like at a Chevrolet dealer.

[Boethius]

I get what fabio is saying.  It's about ensuring, before marrying someone, that they are compatible.

Fabio, if you've only had one satisfying experience since being single, it is likely you're not ringing a woman's bells.  Most women need lots of foreplay.  You also need to tell the girls you're with what you want.

[Faux Pas]

It worries me because I have had only one truly enjoyable sexual experience since being single. I really don't like that percentage.

Was that by yourself or with somebody?

More proof that youth is wasted on the young.  

fab, sex with a RW is no different than sex with women the world over. They are from another country, not another planet. If you are only concerned with your satisfaction, you will find it difficult to find a women who shares your sexual appetite. If you do find her, she likely wouldn't be worth having.

While you  would like to think you are extremely sexual and special, and you may very well be, just like the other 6 billion people on the planet. FSUW are different in a lot of ways, mostly relating to culture but, when you strip all that away they are just women. They feel and act just like most other women in the world. Some very sexual and others not or, just not with you.

Very likely your friend's friend just married a whore and you can too if that is what you wish. Different strokes for different folks. If dude is happy, more power to him. If you are picking out a women based purely on sexuality, you are in for quite a ride and likely this is the reason you are still looking now.

[fabiodriven]

Fabio, if you've only had one satisfying experience since being single, it is likely you're not ringing a woman's bells.  Most women need lots of foreplay.  You also need to tell the girls you're with what you want.

That is not the case here. They always want to come back for more.

[Daveman]

I get what fabio is saying.  It's about ensuring, before marrying someone, that they are compatible.

Fabio, if you've only had one satisfying experience since being single, it is likely you're not ringing a woman's bells.  Most women need lots of foreplay.  You also need to tell the girls you're with what you want.

Yep, I agree here.  

One thing about RW/FSUW is that they don't seem to carry the same religious sexual baggage as their American sisters.  Sex is a very natural part of the progression rather than some prize at the "finish" (pun intended) line.

If you want to "Point and Boink", however, you may run into some, er, difficulties.  

[fabiodriven]

I might ask that a few of you take the time to read my original post a bit more carefully. I don't think a lot of you understand the nature of my question.

Good info Faux Pas. That's more of the type of answer I was looking for.

[Blues Fairy]

But realistically, I would like to find out if my new wife and I are going to be compatible.

What do you think Russian women expect, that you marry them immediately after holding hands and eating borsch together?  In most cases they'll take their sweet time to get to know you, too, before jumping into bed marriage with you.  

Unless, of course, it is you who expect to get married within three weeks of meeting someone.  

[Daveman]

What do you think Russian women expect, that you marry them immediately after holding hands and eating borsch together?

Now one must admit, that would be one hell of a magical borsch!    Hmmmmm, yeah, I'd marry her for her magical borsch!  That stuff is intoxicating! 

[Gylden]

I know a guy who went to one of the "stans" and did that. Picked a nice looking woman out of a line-up in a bar. Married her, moved her and after she became "legal" took him to the cleaners, after having a kid with him.

 

[BC]

Now one must admit, that would be one hell of a magical borsch!    Hmmmmm, yeah, I'd marry her for her magical borsch!  That stuff is intoxicating! 

Overall, and very generally speaking, the sexual attitudes of the FSUW you meet may not live up to the expectations presented in the new 'Russian porn' category on adult sites.

After all, porn stars are porn stars.

And yeah, any relationship with destination marriage should reach the intimate stage long before dropping the 'M' word and oral sex should go both ways.. LOL

Magical borscht and Mirages.. don't chase them.

[BC]

I know a guy who went to one of the "stans" and did that. Picked a nice looking woman out of a line-up in a bar. Married her, moved her and after she became "legal" took him to the cleaners, after having a kid with him.

 

One of the guys I worked with in the military went to Las Vegas.. Next day while he was working off his hangover he got a call from his wife and was very confused.. and insisted he was still single..  Took a few years but think they finally divorced.

WYSIWYG kinda thing.

[Faux Pas]

I might ask that a few of you take the time to read my original post a bit more carefully. I don't think a lot of you understand the nature of my question.

Good info Faux Pas. That's more of the type of answer I was looking for.

I'm on my second marriage after being single for 18 years. My first wife I was convinced had the most magical 4 inch piece of real estate in the world and, I had to have it. I don't have to tell you how that ended for you to get the picture. She could have been Russian or Iranian and the result would have been the same. What I learned from that many years ago is to quit thinking solely with the little head. Yes, the little head is very important but, not all encompassing.

As you mature fab you'll discover that charging into a relationship penis first will often mislead you. If it is a piece of tail you seek, then by all means go penis first. If it is a relationship then, take the time to know the woman, make sure you more than just like her as a place for a DNA deposit. There is much more to life and relationships than just your immediate sexual needs although, those are extremely important too. It is not a fine line but, a well defined one. You need to recognize the difference.

You can find you a place to pick women out of a line up. You need to decide if that is what you want. You will get what you pay for. All of it.

Or you can go the route of building a relationship with a woman you actually like, respect and can't wait to make love too.

[groovlstk]

Supposedly the guy in the story currently has a Russian wife. He went to Russia about three years ago for about three weeks and apparently got to "point out" women that he liked and "try them out", if you will. He found one he liked, brought her home, and the rest is history.

You will hear incredible stories like this from time to time from people who think this whole thing is a really bad idea. You'll get the flip side from people (those with commercial interests along with single men who embrace MOB myths) who want to encourage you. They don't have much in common except for an aversion to the truth.

There are plenty of solid, long-term marriages out there, but they are boring (except for the principals involved, of course).

[GQBlues]

This thread reminded of a guy from the 'other', now-lost, board about 3 years ago who went to Uzbekistan or one of the 'stans' and married a virgin. Once the woman came and married him, roughly about a month later they were having some difficulties and came back to the board in hopes of getting some advice with their situation..

Apparently, the guy is hung like a race horse and it was causing the woman excruciating pain everytime he released the Kraken.

Anyway...I digress.

Any and all suggestions are welcome.

Yeah. Go here before leaving for your trip and shop. It used to be a great place to go between 10 PM - 1 AM as it is littered with mostly good looking women. Lot's of couples too. If you will also note, the location of this place is right at the edge of the Russian/Ukrainian community. Lots' of RW/UWs out and about occasionally.

Find your Rabbit.

[ML]

One thing about RW/FSUW is that they don't seem to carry the same religious sexual baggage as their American sisters.  Sex is a very natural part of the progression rather than some prize at the "finish" (pun intended) line.

I will second this.  In fact, in my conservative approach, I was deemed to be a little shy or at least 'slow' to get on with it in some cases.

[fabiodriven]

I will second this.  In fact, in my conservative approach, I was deemed to be a little shy or at least 'slow' to get on with it in some cases.

That's some good info too. I'll have to remember that. I am usually very cautious when it comes time to make a move. Usually I need a clear "green light" before I proceed.

[ECOCKS]

Hmmm, well when I read this little story my take was that the guy was on a tour, not actually shopping in a bordello. My personal assessment is that the relationship probably won't last if there is no emotional tie but everyone wants to believe they are the "one-in-a-million" exception to reality. We have all seen that here and among our friends yet few are objective enough to understand their folly except in hindsight.

[Boethius]

We have all seen that here and among our friends yet few are objective enough to understand their folly except in hindsight.

Or to listen to advice.

[Faux Pas]

Hmmm, well when I read this little story my take was that the guy was on a tour, not actually shopping in a bordello. My personal assessment is that the relationship probably won't last if there is no emotional tie but everyone wants to believe they are the "one-in-a-million" exception to reality. We have all seen that here and among our friends yet few are objective enough to understand their folly except in hindsight.

My take was different from yours. Pointing one out for a bang to decide if she's compatible doesn't strike me as a tour

[ECOCKS]

"Supposedly the guy in the story currently has a Russian wife. He went to Russia about three years ago for about three weeks and apparently got to "point out" women that he liked and "try them out", if you will."

Just the way I read it maybe, but my impression was he didn't spend three weeks in a whorehouse sampling the wares. I missed how "women that he liked" became "she's hot, let's ****!"

It just reads like one of the tour story folklore tales to me.

Maybe that's the way some guys did their hunting though.

[Faux Pas]

"Supposedly the guy in the story currently has a Russian wife. He went to Russia about three years ago for about three weeks and apparently got to "point out" women that he liked and "try them out", if you will."

Just the way I read it maybe, but my impression was he didn't spend three weeks in a whorehouse sampling the wares. I missed how "women that he liked" became "she's hot, let's ****!"

Maybe when you look at it with the 3rd bolded quote. It's unlikely he was trying out their cooking, cleaning and shopping expertise

It just reads like one of the tour story folklore tales to me.

Maybe that's the way some guys did their hunting though.

You are likely right and only compounded by the friend of a friend thing. However, stranger things have happened

[tim 360]

It worries me because I have had only one truly enjoyable sexual experience since being single.


But realistically, I would like to find out if my new wife and I are going to be compatible. I have been with women who seemed like they would be right up my alley when talking to them before hand. When the time actually comes, it's almost always a disappointment to me.

Mr Fabio--How long have you been single?  How was it like with your wife?  Perhaps you should date more BEFORE thinking about getting married to an RW.  Anyway you are thinking way too much because most women would want to test-drive YOU before consigning themselves to marriage.

How long were you married for?