Wife split!

[tim 360]

Wayne,  it is mentally and emotionally healthy for you to just forget her and get on with your life.   

[Vaughn]

I'm glad to know she didn't end up living under a bridge, and getting public assistance
for which you would have to reimburse the government.

Who's footing the bill ? Who cares ?

I'm assuming the threat of DV charges never really materialized. Count your blessings, Wayne.

[Maxx2]

 
Wayne, I've been where you are at. My ex had similar expectations and goals as your ex. When she left seven years ago I was informed by her friends where she went. I knew it was best not to inquire further. A few years later a member here and I was having a phone conversation. He asked if I knew where my ex was living. I told him "last I heard it was in a town called 'such and such"'. He said that was right down the road from him. He started to describe a RW he knew that lived there. Apparently he and his wife knew her. I didn't ask any details about her. I've talked with him a few times since and I have never asked how she was doing. It's best not to know. Same for you Wayne.

[Doll]

Who is footing the bill?  What do you think?

She does. Who pays your bills, Wayne? You do.
 A nice place BTW- I mean her apartment, not expensive also.

[Wayne]

I am glad that O and her Daughter are doing well.  I did really love O very much!  Yes, it is difficult for me to forget!

I think O has a good paying job now and is able to take care of herself. She is probably renting the condo, as she would not have a credit history and down payment. She likes living in a large city that is very busy with a lot of people around. There are about 60,000 people living on Coney Island, which is not really an island anymore. Yes, the buildings are old--but that is what O is used to. Her building was built in 1964 and is probably newer than most buildings there. She does not need a car, as public transportation is very available. Therefore, she does not have car payments, insurance, gas, etc. This is a more normal living arrangement for her.

I am starting to recover.

[GregfromGa]

So if you think this was her plan all along and she dragged you through the mud and it's over then why dont you post her full name and pictures somewhere so if anyone does a google search then they might avoid such a pitfall. It's obvious this woman used you and I know it's hard so why not fight back some? What you do might keep some other poor bastard from losing everything he's worked hard for. If you look hard enough she might already be on some blacklist somewhere. As far as Brighton Beach is concerned, I've been there once. Hated it.

[Doll]

Don't start, Greg! She didn't use him intentionally.
As for the place someone lives-then it's the matter of choice.

[GregfromGa]

Don't start, Greg! She didn't use him intentionally.
As for the place someone lives-then it's the matter of choice.

What do you mean didnt use him intentionally? She didnt screw the guy at all after the wedding night. What do you call that? An accident? Maybe it just slipped her mind. This women was bad news from the jump start and she gives this whole process a black eye. There's probably some nice girl in Omsk who is freezing her ass off that might would have the opportunity to meet a nice guy,make a good wife and a good mother but with a story like this it aint happening.

[Doll]

There's probably some nice girl in Omsk who is freezing her ass off that might would have the opportunity to meet a nice guy,make a good wife and a good mother but with a story like this it aint happening.

Didn't get it.

[Doll]

Also, Greg, a man with some decent self esteem will NOT ever post his ex's name anywhere. They split? It is sad but happens all the time in this country.
Have any of you, guys, posted your ex's name on the boards or something? Seriously!
 Have you ever seen something like "my ex is a b-tch, don't anyone ever marry her"?
I have not. I am talking of American wives (ex- wives).
 

[GregfromGa]

Maybe they should...From what little I've read the woman used him for her green card..Yes???

[Doll]

We don't know.
So how about "posting" about AW?
My friend's wife took the kids, most of the money, 2 cars, all that was nice in the house and left him with nothing but mortgage.
Another friend's wife took 450,000 from their joint account and left him for her bf.
 It is not nice, both men suffer but are they going to "post" anything? Not in their worst thoughts!
  Or is the key word GC or "Russian"?
Wayne's wife took nothing, the divorce was not ugly.

[GregfromGa]

She took nothing because the judge gave her nothing..She ran up lots of credit card bills, attorney fee's ETC....He needs to expose this egg sucking dog so the next unsuspecting guy dont get the same treatment...She knew when she got on the plane she didnt love him. Poor bastard never had a chance. Now she's living the high life in Brighton Beach and probably shaking her little Russian ass in every discotech in upper, lower and middle Manhattin..In the meantime poor old Wayne is home alone trying to get over the financial pitfalls of marrying a GC girl.

[Doll]

Ok. Sure.

[kievstar]

Greg, is right on here.  This woman is a low life. 

Wayne is at fault to as he dated out of his league. 

Two faults never make a right.

[Doll]

shaking her little Russian ass

I was on  a training, so the statement like this one above is a no-no. I am not wasting my time to explain you  why.
Alles.

[BillyB]

Thought I would show you where O is living.

Wayne, if you're living in Michigan, what are you doing in New York taking photos of the O's place? Sill obssessed with her? If she finds out and doesn't like it, she might get you the title of "Stalker".

You made a bad or wrong choice in women. Forget about O and go find a woman that likes you. The best way to forget about a woman is with another woman.

[Wayne]

I am not going to post photos of O, but something Greg said makes me remember a photo that O emailed to me when she was still in Russia. O's natural hair is dark, almost black and straight. Perhaps almost Oriental. I was surprised when she sent me a photo where she all of  sudden was blond!  I remember the shirt she was wearing which had the words in English:  "I juicy N.YC. Girl"

The other thing. O likes to wear tight fitting jeans, size 3.  I don't know if it is on purpose or just a habit, but she does always shake her booty!

O's Daughter is nothing like her Mom.  I wonder what the Daughter's Father really is like?  Remember, her Father's Parents tried to stop O from taking Daughter out of Russia, and O went to court to get a court order

[Doll]

OMG

[Admin]

I am not going to post photos of O, but something Greg said makes me remember a photo that O emailed to me when she was still in Russia. O's natural hair is dark, almost black and straight. Perhaps almost Oriental. I was surprised when she sent me a photo where she all of  sudden was blond!  I remember the shirt she was wearing which had the words in English:  "I juicy N.YC. Girl"

The other thing. O likes to wear tight fitting jeans, size 3.  I don't know if it is on purpose or just a habit, but she does always shake her booty!

O's Daughter is nothing like her Mom.  I wonder what the Daughter's Father really is like?  Remember, her Father's Parents tried to stop O from taking Daughter out of Russia, and O went to court to get a court order

Ruminating over lost causes is a complete and total waste of time.

Contrary to other opinions in this topic, I believe spending any time on retribution is equally wasted.

Focus on the things that matter and that you can 'control' - and that is YOU. Put aside the ruminations - FORCE yourself, if you must - but do NOT let them occupy any space or time in your thoughts.

FORCE yourself to focus on those things that affect YOU positively.

If you care to (or need to), seek out a therapist who specializes in Rational Emotive Therapy (sometimes referred to as Gestalt Therapy).

CHANGE the trajectory of YOUR past and current behaviors. CHANGE takes energy. Energy usually (almost always) results from pain. You had that stimulus - now make the most of it.

- Dan

[kievstar]

Wayne, you need to go see professional help.  Please follow the advise of the admin.  Reading what you just wrote is not right. 

[Maxx2]

Her building was built in 1964

I am starting to recover.

Man! I don't think so. Learning details about her life such as the age of her building? Have you been studying the blueprints? Keeping her under surveillance?

[Wayne]

I googled O's address.  The first thing on the list was a Craig's list ad for that exact address.All the information is there! And there was a floor plan and a long description and many details that will remain unspoken. Also, the man included his full name and email address.  He has a Russian name.

[UTRO]

According to O's Attorney, O is living in New York City, working for government as an "Inspector"  I do not have any other information.

How does a Russian Citizen get Security Clearance to work for the Government?
Regardless Wayne, it's time for you to move on from something that never should have been.

[Mike78]

Also, Greg, a man with some decent self esteem will NOT ever post his ex's name anywhere. They split? It is sad but happens all the time in this country.
Have any of you, guys, posted your ex's name on the boards or something? Seriously!
 Have you ever seen something like "my ex is a b-tch, don't anyone ever marry her"?
I have not. I am talking of American wives (ex- wives).
 

There's a website for that...
http://www.thepsychoexwife.com/